USE OF REFLECTION AFTER CONFLICT
Let us further imagine that Sue had the conversation with her team members that we present in Table 22.1. In this conversation, Bob has challenged Sue. Sue is not happy with the conversation, so she has met with some colleagues who are using Action Science to develop skills in handling conflicts by analyzing their experiences after they happened.
An Action Science consultant would work with Sue in the following manner. She would help Sue to identify her explicit and implicit intentions for this interaction. Sue might first identify her goal as one in which she will try to get the best solution to the roadblock, but eventually she might also become aware of conflicting goals, such as to win in her confrontation with Bob. She might also realize that she values looking good in front of her teammates, especially in light of the gender discrimination at the company, and she wants to be respected as a professional. The consultant would help Sue recognize the mismatch between her intentions and outcomes. This mismatch could stimulate a desire to learn a new way of addressing conflicts.
As they review the conflict, the consultant would draw out explicit assumptions that Sue might be holding about her teammates and her interactions with them in this situation. The consultant would use the ladder of inference to help Sue see how she makes sense of the conflict. The ladder of inference draws out and makes explicit the reasoning that people use in coming to conclusions and
Table 22.1. Sue's Dialog with Her Teammates.
| What Sue Felt or Thought But Did Not Say | What Sue and Teammates Said |
| These guys! We’ve been chewing on this question ever since we began meeting. Someone must know something about this situation that I don’t know. | Sue: So, that summarizes what we have agreed to. I think we disagree about whether we think that the people we want to reach actually shop in the kind of convenience store we have targeted. I suggest that we hire ThinkRight consultants to do focus groups to check out our assumptions on this one. |
| What’s Bob up to now! This is coming from left field. | Bob: You have been pushing those people from the moment we met. What’s in it for you to use these guys? |
| Here we go again. These guys are trying to make me look like I don’t know what I am doing. | Sue: Huh? I am just trying to move us forward. We have been circling around this question ever since we began meeting. I want us to move forward. |
| What do I do with this one? He’s made it look like, if I confront him, he’s right... the jerk! He’s not really joking. | Bob: Yeah, yeah. I know how you women work. Give you an inch and you take a mile (said somewhat mockingly, as if in humor, laughter all around from others) You are just trying to railroad your decision through. (others nod in agreement, no one else speaks up.) |
Source: Author.
taking actions. Using the ladder of inference, Sue can begin to see how she uses her own meaning schemas (to use Mezirow’s language) to filter and interpret what she sees in the experience. Table 22.2 illustrates hypothetical ladders of inference for Sue and for Bob.
If these ladders bear any relationship to reality, we can see that Bob and Sue are on a collision course. Their respective framing of the situation will make it very difficult to look for common goals. They are each influenced by deeply held beliefs and values that they have not consciously explored and that may also bring out strong feelings that will probably affect their decisions. Their choices may lead them to take actions that actually create the consequences that they say they do not wish to experience.
The consultant could help Sue to map the links between her assumptions and the way they shape her actions to see this chain of consequences. Table 22.3 illustrates this kind of mapping. It takes someTable 22.2. Dueling Ladders of Inference.
| Steps on the Ladder of Inference | Sue’s Ladder of Inference | Bob’s Ladder of Inference |
| Actions that I take | I'll just joke a bit too, so I don't look foolish, but I'll be darned if I am going to give this one up... I'll show him I'm right! | I'll just put Sue in her place here... that should stop her from pursuing her agenda. |
| Conclusions that I draw | I'd better get some data out on the table to see what is going on here so I won't get duped. | Sue is using ThinkRight as a “screen” to cover up her real motives. |
| Assumptions that I make | I'll bet that Bob is just trying to make me look bad. | Sue has a hidden agenda... she wants to grab control here. |
| Meanings that I add | This seems like a “no brainer”... these guys know something that I don't. | In my life, when women have taken the lead, they don't let me have any say in the matter. |
| Data I select from what I observe | This decision shouldn't be so hard... maybe an outside perspective would help us get past this roadblock. | Once again, Sue is in charge. |
| Directly observable data | I suggest that we hire ThinkRight consultants to.... | I suggest that we hire ThinkRight consultants to.... |
Source: Author.
Table 22.3. Mapping One Possible Set of Causal Links in Sue's Case.
| Sue’s Intentions | Sue’s Assumptions | Sue’s Actions | Sue’s Outcomes |
| To be taken seriously as a professional | Bob is trying to make me look bad. | I'll stick to my guns and push to hire ThinkRight. | Sue's teammates thinks she is too wedded to her own solution and thus not professional. |
Source: Author.
time to map causal links with any degree of accuracy. The consultant has to test that various interpretations actually represent Sue’s viewpoint so that she does not simply project her own meaning schemas on Sue. The consultant could help Sue to see that her interpretations are likely to lead her to the gap she says she wants to avoid between her various stated intentions and the likely outcomes from the interaction.
Underlying beliefs and values—Sue’s, Bob’s, the other teammates,’ and the company’s—are not easily changed even when they might be recognized as unproductive. Using Mezirow’s framework, the consultant could help Sue look in greater depth at the kinds of assumptions that might be influencing her actions. People’s responses often reflect views in the dominant culture. By mapping out responses and discussing them with others, people can identify deeper patterns that cause conflict, and they may be able to produce a change in the cultural patterns that make it difficult to act in new ways.
For example, when Dr. Karen Watkins at the University of Georgia taught a graduate course in Action Science (Marsick and Watkins, 1999), two individuals from different organizations had brought in cases in which sexual harassment was an underlying theme. In the group discussion that ensued, many individuals agreed that this was a significant societal concern. The class mapped these themes from the point of view of common responses, and the way in which these responses would have to change in order to allow greater learning to occur. These maps are shown in Table 22.4. Action Science can help to make public issues that otherwise could not easily be addressed because of potential repercussions.
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